What attributes described in Johari Window exercise do you see as key to In our next post we’ll look at the characteristics of self-disclosure and some of the reasons we do it.Week 4: Managing yourself and Managing Others How open or closed are your Johari windows? If you haven’t given the idea of when, where, and with whom you share personal information a lot of thought, now would be a good time. Okay – as usual, get curious about yourself. One day we have an insight about ourselves we never had before and the window slides up.
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No two people have the same configuration of window settingsĪ few things to keep in mind when thinking about the Johari Window:.Four quadrants where levels of knowing and not-knowing can shift up and down like a window.The window contains everything there is to know about you.The Johari Window is a fascinating tool for getting in touch with areas of our life where self-disclosure can take place.Ī Model for Self-disclosure – The Johari Window The Saying What Matters lady loves models and visuals so I want to leave you with something to think about. I can’t see how I’ll ever get over this.” Chuck nods in sympathy and Joe mumbles, “Marriage sure doesn’t mean what it used to.”įeelings – when we get down to feelings we’re at the most revealing level of disclosure. Opinions – opinions represent a deeper level of disclosure because they reflect values, beliefs, and information about the self. Chuck gives Joe a confused look and Joe says, “We’re getting a divorce.” This is a verifiable fact and since Chuck didn’t know, Joe has self-disclosed – to a degree. Joe replies, “There’s a sucker born every minute, right?” Joe certainly means something but what that meaning might be is ambiguous.įacts – presenting the facts goes a step beyond a cliché. Chuck asks how Joe’s wife Tammy is doing. Joe runs into Chuck, a good friend he hasn’t seen in years. But clichés are ambiguous.Ĭonsider this example that we’ll use throughout. We always have a choice about how deep we go on any given topic.Ĭlichés – these represent a very surface level of disclosure – an easily tossed out stock responses that may contain a coded way of hinting that more is going on. When we reveal information about ourselves that is significant and would not normally be known to another. The Saying What Matters Lady is here to tell you, self-disclosure requires careful thought. This preparation exercise was important because the class involved a fair amount of small group work and, as anyone who’s been part of a group knows, a group can be a self-disclosure quagmire. Students were asked to put some thought into the type of personal disclosure that is appropriate in each setting and jot down some notes for their own reference. Things about me I would share in a classroom or educational, group setting.
Things about me I would share with an acquaintance or work colleague.a partner, a close friend or family member Things about me I would share with someone I am intimate with i.e.Things about me I would share with anyone.When the paper opened, the student would see four quadrants: Each student would receive a folded piece of paper – the front of which looked like a door. I used to present an activity to classes I taught called the door of disclosure. These experiences alert us to the need for careful thought when it comes to self-disclosure. We’ve probably all had that uncomfortable feeling when we walk away from talking to someone and the words run through our head – too much information, I shouldn’t have said so much or, conversely, I didn’t want to know that much about him or her.
It isn’t always something we think about. The first step is realizing that such a negotiation is necessary. How do we negotiate the when, where and with who questions around self-disclosure? But a time will inevitably come, in most important relationships, when the invitation to open up, to reveal things close to the heart presents itself. It isn’t only done through self-disclosure. In the last post we discussed the idea that intimacy is built in relationships through various means.
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